“The reason why the world lacks unity, and lies broken and in heaps, is, because man is disunited with himself.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
I was never attracted to working on those large jigsaw puzzles that culminate in a beautiful scene once every piece is put in its proper place. I never had the patience. Maybe that’s what’s wrong in the world. People don’t make the time analyze and put their lives together in a way that brings peace and harmony in their worlds.
The development of harmony in anyone’s world won’t start when all the pieces of the puzzle of their external life (education, the right job, a better partner, etc.) are finally in place. Many people have every material thing they could possibly want or need, but they feel fragmented within. It’s not the external environment that has to change before peace of mind can come. Unity in heart, mind, and spirit can only begin when you focus on putting the pieces together on the inside.
There’s a good reason you might feel fragmented on the inside. The development of unity is a lot like piecing together a 1000 piece puzzle. What makes the task more difficult is that there are many pieces in the box that don’t fit. They shouldn’t be there. They are getting in the way of you being able to complete the puzzle.
The trick is to identify which pieces don’t fit and then let them go.
From infancy, you received information from thousands of sources. A lot of that information was not true, even though some of it came from people who said they loved you and had your best interests in mind. Until a person reaches 11-12 years of age, the brain is not developed enough to be able to separate out the good information from the bad information. That’s not a weakness or anyone’s fault. It is the natural way of growth and development.
However, if you continue to believe misinformation once your brain is capable of analyzing received information, it will be difficult to find unity within.
Let me give you an example. I was short in my elementary school days. People told me I was too small to play basketball or football. That was misinformation. Here are three people (small in stature but tall in self-image) who played in the National Basketball Association for 12-14 years:
Spud Webb, Listed height: 5’6″, Career statistics: (1986-98), 814 Games, 9.1 points per game, 5.3 assists per game.
Earl Boykins, Listed height: 5’5″, Career statistics (1998-2012): 652 Games, 8.9 points per game, 3.2 assists per game.
Muggsy Bogues, Listed height: 5’3″, Career statistics (1987-2001): 889 Games, 7.7 points per game, 7.6 assists per game.
Here’s another example of misinformation: I grew up in a loving, Christian home where church was the center of our life. I was taught that I was born a sinner. I could blame that on Adam and Eve’s disobedience in the Garden of Eden. This was called “original sin” and the person who came up with that theory in the fourth century was St. Augustine. It’s one man’s idea of why all people have a tendency to do hurtful things.
But is it true? Today, my adult brain says, “Something else is causing people to act in ways that hurt others.”
The point is this: you have received misinformation throughout your life that you have accepted as truth. Yet it needs to be let go before you will find the peace and unity that can fill your days with harmony and joy. And when you work on getting rid of some of the pieces of the puzzle that are wrong and hampering the development of who you are created to be, some new pieces will find their way in and close some of the gaps.
I’ll be giving you some methods in future posts that will help you learn how to let go of misinformation.